Blog 249 – Leaving The Pit of Despair, Part 4 – 11 May 2025

My purpose is to give hope to those who have lost hope. Without hope, we remain lost in the Shadow Lands.

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Blog 248 finished with these words.

So, I kept Margaret alive through sheer willpower in combination with complete love. And before we went to Ireland for our wedding, I jammed a permanent plug into the vortex that was sucking the very life out of Margaret. And before we left for Ireland to officially get married, Margaret began to come back to me. Love helped Margaret climb out of the Pit of Despair.

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My heart sang on 30 July 2009 when Margaret and I went through a formal wedding ceremony.  The joy I saw in her face made me certain that I could help her leave the Pit of Despair which had taken her to the very brink of death.  Our public declaration of our love helped her make the decision she had to make before she could leave the Pit.

Before she would ever leave the pit of Despair, Margaret had to make an irrevocable decision to leave – and she did.

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 I said in Blog 247 that I would elaborate on the tools needed to help you climb out of the Pit of Despair.  You may think I let you down because Blog 247 did not talk about any particular tools.  It focused so much on the power of love.

If you missed the connection, I will spell it out.

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Before you can leave the Pit, you MUST decide that you are leaving, that you are staying not one moment longer than you must.  That requires a deep personal commitment by YOU.   Without the commitment by you to leave the Pit, you will never find the exit from the Pit.

Others cannot simply haul you out of the Pit, but they can help you to make the decision to leave.  They can do that through the power of their love.

You may be so deeply buried in the Pit that you believe there is no love in your life and that there never will be.  I have been in that position and I know from my own experience that I was wrong.

Your dog loves you completely and wants you to decide to leave the Pit.

No matter what has happened, your spouse loves you and wants you to leave the Pit – even if your spouse has become so fed up with your behaviour that you have been tossed out of the house.

Your parents love you and want you to leave the Pit.

Every single person who loves you knows that you and only you have the ability to decide to leave the Pit.  Unless you make that decision, you will stay in the pit for an eternity.

So, first you must make the decision to leave the Pit.

And love will give you the strength to make that decision.

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You might think that you have to make a decision that you really do not have to make.

You do not have to decide that your exit from the Pit will happen at 5.00 pm next Tuesday.

It may be a good idea to leave yourself some leeway on the exact date of your departure.

Try doing it like this

I have decided I am definitely leaving the Pit.  I have found the strength to make this decision because of the love I feel from those who love me. I will work out how I will leave by no later than next Sunday. This means I have a complete week in which to work out how I get out. Now, I have to REALLY work out the strategies that are likely to help you get out of the Pit

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You have to decide that you are going to leave … and you have to definitely mean it.  Love is the element that will help you make this decision.

When you have decided to leave, you must then work out how you are going to do it.  Working out how you are going to leave is much easier to do when you know you have made a decision to leave.

So, this is the sequence of events so far.

1. Let love give you the strength to make the decision that you are definitely leaving the Pit.

2. Once you have decided you are changing your place of residence, work out how you are going to manage your departure

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I will tell you more tomorrow.